Sorry I've been gone for a while, but I need some advice on a personal matter that I have no one to talk to about, so I hope I can count on your guy's help.
I started seeing this guy around the end of August. I really love spending time with him, but whenever we make plans or have a day off work together (we work in the same place,) he seems to always disappoint me and not show up or even call. Or his wonderful ex-girlfriend will stop by his place with their kid and insist that the three of them spend time together. Whenever we do spend time together, it is usually pretty late in the evening since we both work the night shift. We'll put in a movie, and less that half an hour into the movie we're making out on the couch, which more than usually leads to other things, if you get what I mean. We've only been out on two actual dates since we started dating.
I'm starting to get a little fed up with him. He's my first boyfriend ever, plus he is the first guy that I've had sex with. Thats probably why this is such a hard decision whether or not to stay with him. We have this physical attraction that is just explosive. Even when he just runs his fingers down my arm it drives me crazy. But if he's going to disappoint me, then why should I keep him around??
HELP ME!!!!!
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Guess it depends on what you want out of the relationship. Not knowing anymore than you have said I wonder if it is a convenient and safe place for him to find sex. Doesn't sound like he has a lot invested emotionally or mentally. If that's what you want out of it then ok but if you want more sounds like he is not the right guy and you do not need to keep him around. Don't know if that helps but that's what I think:)
The fact that you work together and he is your first boyfriend complicate things a lot - but the bottom line is, if he really cared for you he would make and keep plans.
Since he seems to only see you when he doesn't have something else going on, since you seem to hardly ever go out on dates, and since he shows up late and you quickly end up having sex it seems pretty clear the level of his investment in this relationship.
Painful as it may seem to you now, the sooner you cut him loose the sooner you can attract someone who will treat you with respect.
And the hot sexual attraction you feel with him - it is not that rare!! Not sure how old you are but I can tell you from experience - there are more men who will do that to you - the trick is to pick one who will bring more than just that to the table!
Good luck resolving this - and good wishes for happier, healthier relationships in your future!
Whatever you decide, it has to make YOU happy. Leaving out the sex-side, you need to think carefully if he/the situation does...hey, I'm no expert ;0)
It really does depend on what you are after from the relationship. Even if you decide what you want is good sex, we women have a tendency to attach feelings to it even when we don't intend to.
He does have a duty to his kid, and the fact that he takes his parenthood seriously says good things about him. But he is not finding the balance between that and pleasing you.
Get this stupid ugly chic drama off here and put up some more VDO crotch shots. This is obsessed with VDO blog, not obsessed with your lame ass life blog.
Here is my general rule:
If you are having 1-3 orgasms, he is just jerking off in you
4 or 5, he can be trained. Get a good whip.
6 or more: take all you can get and beg for more
You need someone who doesn't have any ties, his number one priority will always be his child and by extension his ex-girlfriend, who by the sounds of it still loves him and is probably still sleeping with him too. I would dump him and find a man who would love you completely as a person( and have some maturity as well) not just someone to have sex with and honour your dinner dates and call you if he is going to be late ie like bjb says will give you some respect have, but also give yourself some too, if you date a man wait until the 7th date to go to bed and not the first any guy will think your "easy" if you do that.
Have you left us? Please come back!
I've been checking also. Hope all is well.
Should we delete you from our favourites? Looks like you are not coming back.
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You are too young to strap yourself down with a guy with that much baggage. If he can't put you first, run don't walk away from this one way relationship. Good sex or not.
He's never going to put you first when he has a child, and an ex who uses the child to be with him.
He obviously doesn't respect you or he'd call when he misses a date.
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